Trust in the Lord with all your heart; do not depend on your own understanding. Seek his will in all you do, and he will direct your paths.

^{Mark 10:6-9} But God’s plan was seen from the beginning of creation, for ‘He made them male and female.’ ‘This explains why a man leaves his father and mother and is joined to his wife, and the two are united into one.’ Since they are no longer two but one, let no one separate them, for God has joined them together."

Dear friends, since God loved us that much, we surely ought to love each other. No one has ever seen God. But if we love each other, God lives in us, and his love has been brought to full expression through us.

* If the two sides looks uneven, then it's acceptable for the ushers to escort guests to the side that has less people.

* For a Jewish wedding, switch sides...groom on the left, and the bride on the right,

Although they are various variances to a the processional, here is one that we see mostly used:

The groom and best man are already at the altar

Groomsman first
Bridesmaids follow
Maid of honor
Flower girl and ring bearer
Bride walks with her father, other escort or by-herself.
* If you have a big wedding party your groomsman and bridesmaids should walk in pairs

On which side does the bride walk up the aisle with her father? Traditionally, the bride walks on her father’s left side. If the bride has a long train, you might want to consider being on your father’s right side so that he doesn’t have to walk around your train to take his seat.

 Bride & groom first
Flower girl & ring bearer next
Maid of honor and best man
Bridesmaids and ushers in couple pairs

* If you have an attendant without a partner they walk alone

What do I do with my veil during the wedding?Your maid of honor should help you put your veil over your face before you walk down the aisle After you father walks you down the aisle, he will turn your veil up and give you a kiss
Your maid of honor again should fix the veil so that it's in place and looks nice

What do I do with my engagement ring? Before the ceremony put your engagement ring on your right hand
After the groom puts your wedding band on, you can slip on your engagement ring.
* Your wedding band should be worn first so that it's closer to your heart

What if I am wearing gloves? You can buy gloves with a pre-sewn slit on the ring finger or you can slit the seam of the glove yourself allowing easy access to your ring finger without having to remove your glove

How do I handle my bouquet?After your father has kissed you and your maid of honor fixes your veil, you can hand her your bouquet. Your maid of honor will bring your bouquet up to the altar with her when your marriage certificate is being signed and will hand it over to you after you have finished signing. Remember to place your bouquet with the heads of the flowers outward for the photographer.

Can I wear a white dress if I have children?Etiquette states that you shouldn't wear white but choose off white or have colored accents sewn into your white dress

Etiquette also states that you can't wear a veil, choose a tiara, floral head piece or hat

* If you want to stick to etiquette those are the rules. If you don't care about rules then by all means wear whatever you want, after all, It’s your wedding, and yes, you can have it your way!

Who sits in reserved seats? Reserved seats are for immediate family and anyone else that is important to you. These seats are up front...best seats in the house
Use bows, decorations or rope off the seats/pews that are reserved
Let your ushers know who will be sitting in the reserved sections.

* You can also in “Within the Ribbon” cards. These are little cards sent with the invitation to your VIP guests that will be seated up front. These guests will bring this card and show it to your ushers.

Who walks me down the aisle my father or my stepfather? Even If you are very close to both men, your father is the one who gets this privilege.
Emily Post says it’s a no-no to have both men walk with you but if they get along and you want it that way…go for it. We won’t tell.

Should I have a receiving line at the church? If you are not having a reception or a receiving line at your reception location, then yes. Ask the church if they will allow you to have a receiving line on their property first. If there is another wedding immediately following yours, the church may require you to leave the premises.

What order do people stand in for the receiving line? Here are two examples of receiving line order:

	EXAMPLE #1 LINE-UP		EXAMPLE #2 LINE-UP
©	Bride's Parents	©	Bride's Mother
©	Groom's Parents	©	Groom's Mother
©	The Bride	©	The Bride
©	The Groom	©	The Groom
©	Maid of Honor	©	Maid of Honor
©	Best man	©	Bridesmaids
©	Bridesmaid	©	Men may mingle *
©	Groomsman
©	Bridesmaid
©	Groomsman, etc.

* This same setup can be used for the receiving line at your reception

Love Portions Here are some Love Portion, better known as romantic readings. One of these can be read either at the beginning and just before the Justice of the Peace commence. It can be read by your Maid of Honor, a family member or someone you feel very close too.

"Marriage Joins Two People in the Circle of Its Love", by Edmund O’Neill  “Marriage is a commitment to life, to the best that two people can find and bring out in each other. It offers opportunities for sharing and growth that no other human relationship can equal; a joining that is promised for a lifetime. Within the circle of its love, marriage encompasses all of life’s most important relationships. A wife and a husband are each other’s best friend, confidant, lover, teacher, listener, and critic. There may come times when one partner is heartbroken or ailing, and the love of the other may resemble the tender caring of a parent for a child. Marriage deepens and enriches every facet of life. Happiness is fuller; memories are fresher; commitment is stronger; even anger is felt more strongly, and passes away more quickly. Marriage understands and forgives the mistakes life is unable to avoid. It encourages and nurtures new life, new experiences, and new ways of expressing love through the seasons of life. When two people pledge to love and care for each other in marriage, they create a spirit unique to themselves, which binds them closer than any spoken or written words. Marriage is a promise, a potential, made in the hearts of two people who love, which takes a lifetime to fulfill.”

 Blessing For A Marriage", by James Dillet Freeman “May your marriage bring you all the exquisite excitement a marriage should bring, and may life grant you also patience, tolerance, and understanding. May you always need one another -- not so much to fill your emptiness as to help you to know your fullness. A mountain needs a valley to be complete. The valley does not make the mountain less, but more. And the valley is more a valley because it has a mountain towering over it. So let it be with you and you. May you need one another, but not out of weakness. May you want one another, but not out of lack. May you entice one another, but not compel one another. May you embrace one another, but not out encircle one another. May you succeed in all-important ways with one another, and not fail in the little graces. May you look for things to praise, often say, "I love you!" and take no notice of small faults. If you have quarrels that push you apart, may both of you hope to have good sense enough to take the first step back. May you enter into the mystery that is the awareness of one another's presence -- no more physical than spiritual, warm and near when you are side by side, and warm and near when you are in separate rooms or even distant cities. May you have happiness, and may you find it making one another happy. May you have love, and may you find it loving one another.”

From "The Irrational Season", by Madeleine L'Engle "Ultimately there comes a time when a decision must be made. Ultimately two people who love each other must ask themselves how much they hope for as their love grows and deepens, and how much risk they are willing to take. It is indeed a fearful gamble. Because it is the nature of love to create, a marriage itself is something which has to be created. To marry is the biggest risk in human relations that a person can take. If we commit ourselves to one person for life this is not, as many people think, a rejection of freedom; rather it demands the courage to move into all the risks of freedom, and the risk of love which is permanent; into that love which is not possession, but participation. It takes a lifetime to learn another person. When love is not possession, but participation, then it is part of that co-creation which is our human calling."

"Friendship" , by Judy Bielicki “It is often said that it is love that makes the world go round. However, without doubt, it is friendship which keeps our spinning existence on an even keel. True friendship provides so many of the essentials for a happy life-it is the foundation on which to build an enduring relationship, it is the mortar which bonds us together in harmony, and it is the calm, warm protection we sometimes need when the world outside seems cold and chaotic. True friendship holds a mirror to our foibles and failings, without destroying our sense of worthiness. True friendship nurtures our hopes, supports us in our disappointments, and encourages us to grow to our best potential. (Bride) and (Groom) came together as friends. Today, they pledge to each other not only their love, but also the strength, warmth and, most importantly, the fun of true friendship.”

“I Am Love" “Some say I can fly on the wind, yet I haven’t any wings. Some have found me floating on the open sea, yet I cannot swim. Some have felt my warmth on cold nights, yet I have no flame. And though you cannot see me, I lay between two lovers at the hearth of fireplaces. I am the twinkle in your child’s eyes. I am hidden in the lines of your mother's face. I am your father's shield as he guards your home. And yet… Some say I am stronger than steel, yet I am as fragile as a tear. Some have never searched for me, yet I am around them always. Some say I die with loss, yet I am endless. And though you cannot hear me, I dance on the laughter of children. I am woven into the whispers of passion. I am in the blessings of Grandmothers. I embrace the cries of newborn babies. And yet… Some say I am a flower, yet I am also the seed. Some have little faith in me, yet I will always believe in them. Some say I cannot cure the ill, yet I nourish the soul. And though you cannot touch me, I am the gentle hand of the kind. I am the fingertips that caress your cheek at night. I am the hug of a child. I am love.”


"On Marriage" excerpts from "The Prophet", by Kahlil Gibran "Then Almitra spoke again and said, and what of Marriage master? And he answered saying: You were born together, and together you shall be for ever more. You shall be together when the white wings of death scatter your days. Ay, you shall be together even in the silent memory of God. But let there be spaces in your togetherness, and let the winds of the heavens dance between you. Love one another, but make not a bond of love: let it rather be a moving sea between the shores of your souls. Fill each other’s cup but drink not from one cup. Give one another of your bread but eat not from the same loaf. Sing and dance together and be joyous, but let each one of you be alone."

From "The Hungering Dark" , by Frederick Buechner "Matrimony is called holy, because this brave and fateful promise of a man and a woman, to love and honor and serve each other through thick and thin, looks beyond itself to more fateful promises still, and speaks mightily of what human life at its most human and most alive and most holy must always be. Every wedding is a dream, and every word that is spoken there means more than it says, and every gesture - the clasping of hands, the giving of rings - is rich with mystery. And so it [is that] we hope with every bride and groom, that the love they bear one another, and the joy they take in one another, may help them grow in love for this whole world where their final joy lies."

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